Please note this letter is a form of therapy for me. The other names mentioned in this letter are those of my siblings, nieces and nephew. My hope in sharing this letter openly is that it helps someone else going through loss find a way to connect with their loved one. If this letter can inspire one other person to do the same and help them heal, then I don’t want to keep it to myself.
Today is your birthday. You know I’m finding out more and more that I’m truly your daughter. Like you, the older I get I don’t take my birthday as seriously as I use to. But I remember you always made such a huge deal of our birthdays. I guess that’s why your birthdays have become such a win for my soul. Writing you these letters every year is very therapeutic for me. And every year, I find myself smiling a little more and crying a little less as I write them. I know we talk a lot already, but you know we need to catch you up on the big things.
So shall we?
Well, first, you guessed it. I’m still single. But that’s beside the point. I know, I can already hear you right now… “Char Char, you don’t need a man, you are enough and I love you very much”. Gosh you always made everything better. And you’re right I don’t NEED a man. But you know if you could arrange a tall, dark and handsome Trevor Noah look alike for me I wouldn’t mind at all.…